1. Ask the girl
out in person or via the phone. Don’t
email. Don’t text. That’s lame.
Ask yourself “What’s the worst that could happen?” She could say no, but if you’ve known her for
a while and she’s got a great personality, then chances are she’ll say
yes.
2. Have a
plan. Please make sure you have a few
ideas on hand when you ask her out, or shortly after. Recently I went on a date and had no idea
where we were going for dinner, dessert, etc.
And I really liked that! There
was an element of surprise. Because it
was a double date, the guys got to figure out how to get both girls’ picked up,
who would be driving, etc. So whether
you’re just going to dinner, or out to coffee, make sure to not pick her up and
say “What do you want to do?”
3. Stay In
Contact. If you asked her out on a
Monday for Friday night, make sure to send her a text, give her a call, or even
a Facebook message to let her know you’re looking forward to seeing her on
Friday night. You’ll also want to let
her know how to dress for the evening.
If you’re going for coffee, tell her it’s casual. If you’re going to see a musical, tell her to
dress up a little. If you’re going to be
doing some walking around at any point in the evening, let her know that, as
well.
4. Pick Her
Up. I know it may be totally out of your
way, but chances are that she’s got good restaurants in a 15 minute radius of
where she lives. But don’t get me wrong,
if you’re in the Dallas area, or any big city, it’s a very good probability
that you’ll have to put a few extra miles on your car. But making that extra effort speaks volumes.
5. The Door. Go to
the door to pick her up. Open the car
door, every time. Get every door for her
during the date. At the end of the
evening, walk her to her door. Have you
seen Hitch? If she starts playing with
her house key, it’s okay for you to linger a little.
6. Be Honest. If you had a good time and want to see her
again, tell her so. If you had a good
time and are unsure of how you feel, let her know that you’d like to go out
again and go from there. But if you
really don’t see anything progressing, then gently tell her so. “I had a really great time tonight, I think
we should hang out in a group next time.”
Please spare the promise of “I’ll call you” if you have no intention of
doing it.
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