Etiquette Guide For Women: The First Date




1.  Say Yes.  If he had the guts to ask you out, and you know him well enough to be comfortable one on one with him, then say yes.  Even if you’ve only seen him a friend. 

2.  Have Pleasant Conversation.  A date is not the time to lay out all of your work, family, and friendship woes.  Even if this guy is someone you are really comfortable with, save that discussion for later (or not at all).  It’s okay to be vulnerable, but make sure you’re not unloading on him like he’s you girl friend. 

3.  Put Your Phone Down.  I shouldn’t have to say it, but there is nothing worse than a guy thinking that he’s not interesting and you have to pull out your cell phone.  If you really need to talk to someone or reply to a text, take a bathroom break and take care of it in the hallway outside the restroom.  Your friends probably already know where you are and what you’re doing, so they’ll understand if you don’t call them until the next day.

4.  Be Gracious.  While you probably won’t be expected to pay your part of the bill, be sure to thank him for the night out.  If he really took the time to plan the evening, pick you up, and pay the bill he deserves some recognition.  And all those times he’s supposed to get the door, always say thank you. 

5.  Be Honest.  When he walks you to your door, thank him for the evening.  This will give him time to say his intentions about seeing you again.  If you’re truly not interested, it may be mutual, but if it isn’t be sure to tell him you had fun but would rather hang out in a group setting next time.  You may feel that you need to “be nice” but leading someone on isn’t nice, so be gentle.    

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