"OMG...U will not BELIEVE what happened 2Me 2day..."
"#firstworldproblems"
"Let's break up."
"Do you want to grab a drink?"
I'm sure you know someone that seems to narrate their whole life on Facebook. Once in a while it can be amusing if they share a funny anecdote, but many times they start complaining about how somebody dared to hit on them or cut them off in traffic. What about those posts where someone hashtags the heck out of it (Don't worry, I'm guilty of it, too). And of course, the Facebook message that asks you out on a date or breaks up with you. The ironic thing is that the Internet is supposed to make communicating easier, but it's definitely caused face to face interaction to become almost obsolete. So how does one determine good etiquette for Facebook?
Years ago, people communicated by letter. They had time to sit down and write, and if they needed to, rewrite. The problem with Facebook is that instead of just telling one or two friends about every moment of your life, you are telling hundreds of people. It's time for a little self reflection- do you really think that 100+ people really, genuinely care about all the things you did all day? If you answered "yes" then I need to share with you....No, they don't care. So if you are one of those people going on and on and talking about your full day's schedule, please do your Facebook friends a favor and stop.
So what is appropriate to post? Photos, quotes, funny anecdotes, or even a question that requires some feedback from multiple sources. As long as you are keeping the Wall Post short and sweet then you're doing it right. Please refrain from the short and sweet and begging for attention post. If you're not sure what that is, here are a few examples:
"Today was great. ;)"
":)"
"I can't believe that just happened."
Saying things like that are a ploy to get someone to ask for more information, and we all know you're doing it for attention.
The other topic I wanted to touch on was the appropriateness of using Facebook as a little black book. It's okay to use the information someone puts on Facebook to your advantage. In fact, I've had more than one man tell me he read through a lot posts and favorites to figure out what kind of stuff the woman he fancied was into. Obviously, if it's on a public forum then it's fair game. *Side Note: Guys, let me take a moment to say that when you add a girl to your Facebook friends and she later brings up, in conversation, something you posted- don't freak out. You posted it in the first place. Don't be rude and make the girl feel like she's a stalker when she just happened to see something.* If you are interested in a girl who is your Facebook friend then it is okay to message her some, maybe even ask for her number. But don't ask our out over Facebook. I repeat- do not ask a woman out over Facebook. It's a borderline booty call. So man up and ask her out in person.
This also goes for break ups. I know, break ups stink for both parties involved, but what's worse than getting a message sent to you instead of sitting down over coffee and having a polite conversation? (If you answered with text message, you're right. And we'll discuss that later.)
One last little tidbit for those of you in relationships, married, or new parents. No one is going to love your person as much as you do. So please refrain from always bragging about them online. A great way to make your single friends irritated is to bombard them with updates about your wonderful boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee, husband/wife, new baby, etc. This might sound like a single person's rant, but the truth is, rubbing your seemingly perfect relationship in the faces of others is a good way to make them unfriend you. So keep statuses, photos and notes to a minimum.
For answers to your questions on Beauty, Etiquette, and Fashion email me at sparklyinthecity@gmail.com
"#firstworldproblems"
"Let's break up."
"Do you want to grab a drink?"
I'm sure you know someone that seems to narrate their whole life on Facebook. Once in a while it can be amusing if they share a funny anecdote, but many times they start complaining about how somebody dared to hit on them or cut them off in traffic. What about those posts where someone hashtags the heck out of it (Don't worry, I'm guilty of it, too). And of course, the Facebook message that asks you out on a date or breaks up with you. The ironic thing is that the Internet is supposed to make communicating easier, but it's definitely caused face to face interaction to become almost obsolete. So how does one determine good etiquette for Facebook?
Years ago, people communicated by letter. They had time to sit down and write, and if they needed to, rewrite. The problem with Facebook is that instead of just telling one or two friends about every moment of your life, you are telling hundreds of people. It's time for a little self reflection- do you really think that 100+ people really, genuinely care about all the things you did all day? If you answered "yes" then I need to share with you....No, they don't care. So if you are one of those people going on and on and talking about your full day's schedule, please do your Facebook friends a favor and stop.
So what is appropriate to post? Photos, quotes, funny anecdotes, or even a question that requires some feedback from multiple sources. As long as you are keeping the Wall Post short and sweet then you're doing it right. Please refrain from the short and sweet and begging for attention post. If you're not sure what that is, here are a few examples:
"Today was great. ;)"
":)"
"I can't believe that just happened."
Saying things like that are a ploy to get someone to ask for more information, and we all know you're doing it for attention.
The other topic I wanted to touch on was the appropriateness of using Facebook as a little black book. It's okay to use the information someone puts on Facebook to your advantage. In fact, I've had more than one man tell me he read through a lot posts and favorites to figure out what kind of stuff the woman he fancied was into. Obviously, if it's on a public forum then it's fair game. *Side Note: Guys, let me take a moment to say that when you add a girl to your Facebook friends and she later brings up, in conversation, something you posted- don't freak out. You posted it in the first place. Don't be rude and make the girl feel like she's a stalker when she just happened to see something.* If you are interested in a girl who is your Facebook friend then it is okay to message her some, maybe even ask for her number. But don't ask our out over Facebook. I repeat- do not ask a woman out over Facebook. It's a borderline booty call. So man up and ask her out in person.
This also goes for break ups. I know, break ups stink for both parties involved, but what's worse than getting a message sent to you instead of sitting down over coffee and having a polite conversation? (If you answered with text message, you're right. And we'll discuss that later.)
One last little tidbit for those of you in relationships, married, or new parents. No one is going to love your person as much as you do. So please refrain from always bragging about them online. A great way to make your single friends irritated is to bombard them with updates about your wonderful boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee, husband/wife, new baby, etc. This might sound like a single person's rant, but the truth is, rubbing your seemingly perfect relationship in the faces of others is a good way to make them unfriend you. So keep statuses, photos and notes to a minimum.
For answers to your questions on Beauty, Etiquette, and Fashion email me at sparklyinthecity@gmail.com
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