The Valentine Series: Are You Shallow?

 

One of the biggest things I've noticed is the sense of entitlement that people have in regards to dating.  Believe me, I understand that some guys will just never be physically attracted to me.  What I can't stand is when that becomes a legitimate excuse for ignoring and being rude to me in social environments.  And it's not just me, I see it happen over and over to other girl friends, some guy friends; all because we, as a society, think that we don't need to invest in getting to know someone who isn't the most attractive person in the room.

So here's a little test to give yourself to see if you are, in fact, shallow.

For Guys:

1.  Do you think you are entitled to being in a relationship with someone who is "good on paper"?

2.  If you have a close girl friend, do you ignore her in social settings or allow "prettier" girls to interrupt your conversation with the friend?

3.  Do you feel better about yourself when girls approach you?

4.  Do you date "prettier" girls and find that they don't know you or trust you once you enter a relationship?

5.  If someone assumed you and a close girl friend were dating would you be offended or embarrassed?

6.  If you found out that a close girl friend liked you would you think "Wow, if she thinks she's the kind of girl I'm looking for, she's wrong!"

For Girls:

1.  Do you consider a handsome stranger who approaches you at a bar as cute, and a not-so-attractive stranger a creeper?

2.  If you're talking to a guy that you aren't interested in, do you scan to room to spot your crush or a more attractive man?

3.  If a guy you're not interested in asks you on a date, do you make up an excuse to not go?

4.  If you found out one of your close guy friends liked you, would you avoid him?

5.  Do you intentionally dress in a way that will bring you the attention of men?
6.  If you have a crush on a guy will you ignore the pursuit of another eligible bachelor?
7. If you found out a guy friend liked you would you think "He thinks he's good enough for me?"

I would be lying if I said that I am not also guilty of being shallow.  It can happen in a flash if you're not paying attention to your actions.  I also think sometimes we confuse what we "need" with what we "want".  At the end of the day, most of us want someone who will compliment our weaknesses and challenge us to be a better person.  For more on that, check out What Are You Looking For? Part One and Part Two.