The Valentine Series: Would You See The Red Flags?

 

The first, and only, time I ever dated a man that began talking marriage with me was when I was 23.  At the time I was definitely naive and willing to look passed what I considered flaws.  Looking back, there were plenty of red flags that I chose to ignore for the sake of my desire to be married.  Luckily, though, God took over and got me out of a very toxic relationship.  The next bit of content in this post is pulled directly from Brian Treadaway's blog, maybe you read some of this material when I posted it earlier on my facebook page.

Ladies!  Things to look for, and if he doesn't have them- RED FLAG!
Guys!  Do these describe you?
"Girls!  Wait For This In A Guy Before You Marry!"-Full Article
His ability to discipline himself and work hard
His thoughtfulness for you
Where he finds his identity
His humility and transparency
How he relates to God
His understanding of God’s ways and Scripture
His relationship with his mom
His ability to make you laugh
His passion to be active as part of a church
How he demonstrates grace for others
His ability to inspire and encourage you

Guys!  Things to look for, and if she doesn't have them- RED FLAG!
Ladies!  Do these describe you?
"Guys!  Wait For This In A Girl Before You Marry!" -Full Article
She finds her identity in being loved by God
She’s free to be herself without fear of what others think
She’s free from anger, resentment, and bitterness
She regularly expresses genuine gratefulness
She delights in being made beautiful by God
She regularly and passionately is involved in serving others
She expresses appreciation for her father or other significant males in her life
She talks openly about her love for God
She speaks with words and tones of kindness and encouragement
She has self-discipline, direction, and passion

And if you likes those, check out this other one by Brian.

I wish I'd had this list back when I was with my ex, because there are more than one thing that he fell short of.  Yes, there is grace, but in dating and marriage you should only put up with so much.  You're putting your heart and future on the line!  I would encourage you to commit to becoming the kind of person who fits the list.